Taking care of a dementia elderly is sooooo much tougher than taking care of a kid. Other than the fact that they are not as cute as a toddler, the cursing and scolding is REALLY hard to stomach. I’ve always taken pride in the fact that I am a logical person who can generally manage my emotions well. I’ve never hit my children or raised my voice at my helper. All logic goes out the window with a dementia elderly, however. And Mom has this horrid knack for saying the worse things about people. She can really make my blood boil over and over. 

Just today, she dragged out paper bags and recyclable bags filled with clothes from decades ago, which she had never worn and so were "new". The bags were tattered and torn by now. The colour of clothes faded. Perfectly understandable right? But noOoooo. She had to start her usual rant about "someone" (pointedly implying my helper) was going through her clothes/swapping out her clothes/wearing her clothes/stealing her clothes". "Last time so many of us stay in Palm Road for so many years, also my things never went missing. What?! You think I don't know? The colour won't fade like that one!! Here so few people only but my things always missing. Black-hearted person *curse curse curse*...."

No point using logic to talk to her. Only makes her and myself angrier. Doctor says to distract instead. But the logical person in me just cannot take it lying down. When will I learn??